My friends have been on my case about the bad boys that I have always gone for. Try a nice boy for a change. well, they made me find one online and with their approval, I went forward and made a date with him. He was good looking, he was nicer than nice. He had a heart of gold. And so I made a date with him for Saturday night. It had been a whirlwind of dating so a nice quiet night with a new gentleman was what I needed.
He took me to dinner at an extremely nice restaurant. We chatted, he was funny, he was sweet. He did have something going on with his teeth that was a little tough for me to deal with. He was very handsome, an amazing soul, he made me laugh AND I felt no attraction towards him in a sexual way. Great guy and I wished I felt it. On paper, he was a perfect match for me. But how funny how you just can't produce the connection. You can't find anything specifically wrong but there were absolutely no sparks for me.
I enjoyed our dinner. I gave him a peck on the cheek and he even checked that I got home okay. What a great guy. WHY?? WHY?? Why can't I find a guy like this attractive? And the truth is, I can see myself with him when I am 60. When I want to settle down and travel or sit in the back yard with a nice person or totally settle down. Mr. Nice Man would be perfect. But for now, I love the sexual chemistry. I love looking at someone and knowing we want to screw. I like someone who will want to do it in the car! Someone who wants to try fun and exciting new things (not just sexual! but new and exciting). Yes, i am a thrill junkie!
So Mr. Nice Man would make a very nice connection with someone else but not me. Saddens me in a way because I wish I liked a man like that. BUT I don't. The thought of settling down like that not only scares the crap out of me but I feel suffocated at the thought. Mr. Nice Man is just not for me. BUT I would like to introduce him to my neighbor. he might be a little too wild for her...hahahaha but I think they would make a cute couple. Only thing is my neighbor is asexual I think. Going to be a problem when it comes to men. She wants the true rocking chair with excitement. I am trying to tell her that men even at 70 wanna have sex.
Oh well...so nice man is not for me. but I may have to play matchmaker.
3 comments:
When you're 60? So when you're sex'd out you'd go for a guy like him? Wouldn't he deserve a woman who wants to give him a good sexual relationship as well? I understand you not being into him physically. But what makes you think that he'd want you when your sex drive is on the wane? What makes the badasses you've slept with more deserving of having it all? This is the minefield that middle-aged guys must go through to find a woman who hasn't given the best years of her life to jerks. Too many women don't want to give their new guy the benefit of their years of sexual experience. A nice, decent, caring man is viewed as a catch only when having a fulfilling sex life is but a distant memory, when the mind and the body give way and the need for a caregiver is on the horizon.
This is a bit silly coming from someone who's over 40. Excusable for a girl in her early 20s. Nice man there probably is up for sex in the car. Maybe you should have fondled the gear stick suggestively.
It's great you are able to recognize your own needs and preferences.
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