Telling Someone There's No Chemistry

I don't know how to do it without feeling bad. What is the best way to tell someone, it's just not a match? I like people. I like men and I don't like hurting someone because I don't like getting hurt. But the reality, I am not looking to sleep with 10 men at a time (and someone I am not attracted to).

For a woman, it's overwhelming these online sites. You go on and men are emailing, IMing, you end up after 2 hours having spoken to 3 men and answered email from another 6. I know you are saying...poor women.....but it is confusing. There is always the thought that the next one may be the perfect one. And if you ignore his IM, he might get away.

I met Single Rock Star (we will call him that because he is a guitar player as well as a career. But he plays in a band on weekends). I will get into our meeting in my next post (it deserves an exclusive!!) Anyway, I asked him what was the best way to tell a guy and he said...be honest. So I did that....a guy was not really attractive to me. No hair on his head and too much on his face. That's just me. I like goatees but his guy had a funky moustache and overgrown beard. Anyway, I told him it was nothing personal, I didn't see us together. And he wrote me back and reamed me. Geez.....

Another guy, I emailed back and forth. He was nice, we had some chemistry and I was physically attracted to his pix. However, there were a couple of things that didn't do it for me. First, he weight in at 145 lbs. Well here's the thing...I can't be with a man that is the same weight as me. It makes me feel like an elephant. So, I would not be sexually comfortable in that situation. BUT, I felt I would be open..its my hang up....he says he likes women who are curvy not boards. then there is the uncircumsized thing. I don't know what to do with a cock that hasn't been circumsized. Is the blow job the same? I admit it. I have never been with an uncircumsized cock. I've seen pix...but I love wrapping my tongue around the head...I love the head of a cock...so this threw me a little. And then, the final...I spoke to him. He had a heavy accent. None of these alone would probably throw me but all three....I am not feeling it. So, I told him tonight that I had a thing with the weight (which is probably the biggest for me). Well, he begged and told me that he never felt such chemistry. He begged me to meet him, please give him a chance. Crap.....I am not good at this.

so what is the best way to say its not going to work? I have left distance between emails. I have not answered two emails. I am still trying to lose the other Single Guy (who BTW, lost his job) and the garbage man. I am probably being too nice but I don't like to hurt people. I am obviously doing something wrong.