I have been working hard but as I said, I am beginning to be pulled in with this online flirting again. Damn, it's so addicting. I love to browse the pix (yes, surprisingly, on the singles sites the married men put their picture....now that is weird).
Anyway, I have been browsing and looking at all the hotties. As you know, I find it easy to communicate with people.... I got the gab...lol But I have to tell you, these single sites are very different from the married ones. I like Ashley Madison much better.
The impression I get is these guys have been lead on and are tired of building up any connection. Now I understand that to a point but when you start barking out after an email or two...dude, you need to relax. The truth is, each woman is different. Just because 10 have been idiots, doesn't mean the 11th is. Aren't you just looking for a few good eggs (or even one?)
Well tonight I met this guy. 38 years old, a hottie (I admit) and we were doing great conversing for a few back and forth emails. Then he told me about all the women who were losers, two he was attracted to but never got to a second session with them. I'm not here to date...did you notice I said session? Okay, let me be brutally honest. I am not looking to get married. Send me a pix, I mean you are older than me and I am a great catch! I am one phony away from shutting off my profile....
Can you say balls? Now you have to know that I was laughing and an asshole like this, I don't need in my life. So I basically wrote back a nice note but filled with digs (which I am sure he didn't like)....
" Baby doll, you have to learn to relax a little....I mean you haven't even sessioned before....lol"
"If you noticed, I am married darling, got a husband and don't want another one...now or in the future"
"My age? Sweetie, I have met men younger than you and older than you. had a long affair with someone your young age for over a year."
And darlin, I am an independent, successful woman who doesn't NEED a man but WANTS the right man to share time with. Mature, sophisticated and one that can handle that I am not a child but an independent equal in life and in the bedroom....
I think I scared him...I wrote if you can handle a friendship with a REAL catch then email me and I'll send a pix. hehehehe
Sadly, most of the men are bitter on there. If you aren't interested, let me know right away so I don't waste my time emailing you....oh that is roinmantic and really makes me want to be with you. I mean one guy, I signed on and read his email and then had to finish work. 10 minutes later, he emailed me with a vicious note....WOOOOOO!!
I have been going back and forth with four other guys. Nothing hot yet, the Single womanizer is heating up a little. And just when I thought Mr. Howard Stern Single Guy was gone..he has been calling to meet me and emailing.
So many men, so little time. And if I were single......I wouldn't have any...lol
So Cheri's advice....relax....don't jump down a girls throat and leave your past psycho baggage at the email door.....
Sweet dreams baby!
3 comments:
Men are after all basically selfish and not use to giving of themselves or working very hard to build a relationship. And in the end they all, married or single, want only one thing. And I'm not being snarky, just 18 months of 'research.'
Very well said gurlfriend! You put him in his place and with that feisty attitude I am surprised he did not pounce you..LOL
I'm testing the waters as well..but not quite ready to go back to reaching my "knight in shining armor" just yet :)
Hello Cheri,
On behalf of the brotherhood of men, I would like to apologize for those awful moments spent chatting with guys unworthy of your time and attention.
One thing I would like to point out to you and all those female readers of your blog is that those guys don't see the need to change their behavior because there are plenty of women who don't mind being treated that way. Perhaps this is the main reason my add in Ashley doesn't seem to get to much attention...lol
If every female in were to make a stand and refuse to be talked to that way, you would see an increase of men with acceptable levels of maturity in their dealings with the beautiful sex.
Unfortunately, I don't think we will see that change in our life time. In the meantime, think of this experience as a lecture in human behavior.
Sankukai
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