Hints For Finding Someone On the Married But Personal Sites

I'm not expert, but after Speakin' pointed out--the competition is fierce out there, it made me realize--maybe if I tell you what I look for, it will help all of your chances. Yes, I got over 100 emails (some were from the same people, so lets say 75 men).

Now you would think, sadly, that I would be able to find a functional frog that I was attracted to in that group. However, I think I have seen a lot of the names already so the list will certainly narrow substantially. So here's the inside scoop on how I weed through the personal sites:

1) Don't pick a ridiculous name- avoid 69, hot4it, suckme, ballman, etc. etc. they are raunchy.
2) Most woman are nice woman on the sites, not whores. So treat them with respect but don't be boring
3) Don't bother with the Wink Messages. It's better than nothing BUT you better have a great profile if I take the time to look at it.
4) Fill in the profile so I get an idea of what you are all about. Be honest, don't get crazy for things that you really just think are cool but aren't something you really need. Example--threesomes, dominance/slave, funky fetishes. If that isn't exactly what you are looking for then don't write it (you can say I'd like to maybe try if we get comfortable with the right person)
5) Don't write Conventional Sex only. Hey, I can get that at home.
6) Write each girl a personal note. In the subject like "Hey (whatever her name is)..she'll open it.
7) In the body pull out some key words she wrote. Don't sound desperate or raunchy. Sound flirty....give her a little info on you....if you can be drop a funny line but not raunchy or corny. Just be sincere!
8) Don't send me a penis pix...for women its not all about the penis. If it was, I could go to the store and get a vibrator that can do things a penis could never do!
9) For me, the guy who is not overly horny but looking for someone to enjoy afternoons with is attractive. Someone who is not too needy yet not hey, wanna screw?
10) Based upon the response I received the first day up--I would take the chance and wait a few days after she signs up. Your email will stand out from the rest, not be one of the first 100. The frenzy on the new meat will slow down.....and she will receive your email and probably read it.

Think of it as if you are marketing a product. You need to include reasons why she will want you over another brand.

So if I was a guy---I would write something like.
Subject: Hey Cheri!
I saw your profile and it sounds like you would be a lot of fun to get to know. I , too, am feeling like there is a void in my life and would love to get that spark and excitement back. When you get a chance, take a look at my profile. If your interested, drop me an email and we can get to know eachother and see where it may takes us. Who knows, maybe we can take that long romantic walk we both are into together (or whatever else she says she is into).
Have a great day!

None threatening, upbeat, intriguing, shows that it was a personal message yet not too pushy or needy. Kind of opens the door for possibilities. Okay it's not the best BUT it works for me. Can't promise it would work on another girl.

Oh! Also have a decent pix ready to send or in your profile already. Most women don't go for the old--I don't have a pix. The truth, if there is no attraction then it's a no go. And its better to find out at the beginning. And yes, it's a double standard. I don't send my pix until I think there might be an interest (after I've emailed a few times and got his pix).

And finally, send an email again a couple of weeks later. After the intitial kid in the candy store wears off (the first group of massive emails), the reality and all the losers are weeded out. If she didn't find someone immediately, she is looking for a real guy. So a Hey how's it going? email may get the response you are looking for (it worked on me a couple of times--makes the girl feel like she wasn't one of the millions you sent your profile too).

Well I hope that helps. Most importantly, be yourself. Honestly, everyone of you who comment are such caring and amazing guys. You're real, you have a heart, your looking for passion.......any girl would be lucky to have you. Hey, I am lucky enough to have you in a cyber way and I get all excited when I see your notes. So don't give up....there's a Married Princess just waiting for you out there. Like you tell me, you have to kiss a lot of frogs.

I think you all know that I have reviewed some of the married personal sites on my website-Rendezvous Radio. If you go to the front page, you will see a link to the Personal Sites reviewed...there's a list of them there. Hope that helps (hey, click on a google ad while you are there!!--hee.hee.)