As I was shopping today, the astronaut wrote me a note. Cuddling sounds so mushy, of course I would want you to be totally satisfied--I would hold you after.
Hmmmm...what do ya think? Personally, I think he thought about it and said..she is not going to screw me unless I go the hold you in my arms route here. lol Problem with that is that is the dessert not the appetizer. So after the meal, he could just skip the dessert! lol Honestly, at this point, I am sadly not into him anymore. All this cuddle talk, i don't know if I will ever be cuddled the same again. lol
And then I was thinking how this blog has been so therapeutic for me. It makes me think and I love hearing other peoples thoughts and feelings. Honestly, there is no wrong and right to the cuddling except two people need to be on the same page. I am amazed how many people have cuddlephobia...WOW.
Honestly, I think those who said they don't hold someone at all after sex or have any contact, are full of crap or you cum so fast its quick. All I know is that after a hot session with tons of orgasms, we both collapse and literally crawl for the pillows...we are wiped, fulfilled and exhausted. Its just the natural to lay in their arms. I never gave it a thought actually, I just did it and they held me and it was natural to lie there and talk, watch tv, massage, doze off.
As for those who reserve it for their wives. How righteous of you! I am sure that will be the icebreaker that will keep your wife from throwing you out on your ass. "Oh honey, I fucked her hard over and over and over again But don't worry, I didn't do the cuddle". Please...truth is, a wife just needs to hear you were unfaithful and I doubt it would go much further than that. The details are unimportant to her. The fact that you were with another woman, cuddle not cuddle, will not even come into the conversation. Did your cock go inside of her mouth or her pussy? That is the question and the rest in null and void! For some women watching porn or even reading my blog would be unfaithful in their eyes. And its like being a virgin...you can't become a virgin again so the fact that "Honey, I stopped doing her" will probably not work either. So the cuddle thing as a righteous step to gain brownie points is a ridiculous way to look at it. Actually it would probaby anger your wife even more.
Bottomline, I require being held after. I am curious, what do you guys do? you cum and then........? do you pull out and immediately go into the shower, get dressed and walk out? No words? No other contact? Literally, cum and run?
13 comments:
I say "Nay" for the astronaut! He wouldn't be able to hold you the way you want him to. He has no clue what real cuddling means. I know it. What he's saying is like, "I'll pet you after the sex.." -- you know you deserve better than that! :)
Well, I have had my share of affairs, and 90% of time, once done we just got dressed and maybe a quick kiss and left (am female here). I think maybe the reason is because I felt really guilty and I didn't have lots of time to "lay around" lol.
And now thinking back, the foreplay before hand did it for me all the kissing, licking, holding yada yada was enough for me!!!
I Don't 'not cuddle' for brownie points as you call it.
I cuddle with my wife because I love her. I sleep with other women because I want sex. My wife won't know whether I've cuddled or not if I get caught so your theory is absolute rubbish.
You are sex to me, my wife is my love. You other women will never be worth that type of intimacy to us married men
good you didn't let him land on you.. saved yourself some tears and grief
I am a guy and I tell you, some women can be that way! They don't want the cuddling, they don't want the affection. It's quite harsh but I steer clear of that and want the full meal when I see my lover! Appetizer and dessert included!!
Keep on keepin on!
Cheers
Jason
Anonymous #3
I am a woman having an affair and I gotta say you disgust me.
So its ok for you to be involved in the affair and getting what you want but us women are frowned upon for being the other party.Typical chauvanistic double standard.
Hello.... the cave men days are OVER buddy!!!!
My Handyman likes to cuddle. I adore being wrapped up in his arms and legs!
I would think that a cheating husband would be more likely to cuddle with a gal that he is bangin' on the side moreso than the wife he is bored with enough that he would want to cheat.
WOW...so much anger and hostility, I don't get it.
Anonymous one on this page--thanks for your response...it was open, refreshing and a new view on it. I guess guilt can play a role and maybe the foreplay is enough. Thank you for being honest.
Anonymous #2- Cuddle my wife because I love her?!? You Other woman are not worthy?!? That comment was just fucked up on so many levels. I am not even going to comment anymore...
I am confused with all the anonymous' but I am glad to see the rest of you are caring souls!
Amnonymous #3- I assume your disgust was to the double standard worthy man who loves his wife and others aren't worthy of his cuddle. LOLOL I agree with you...cavemen days are OVER!! Woman have found their sexuality and should enjoy and embrace it!
JF Break...ya popped up on my blackberry as I was writing this...not sure where your comment is BUT you and I always think alike... thanks for the support baby! xoxo
Complicated Kitten--handyman, huh? Mmmm...now that is a hot thought!!
Gotta say, i am still amazed on how the innocence of holding someone has gotten so controversial and more intimate than sex...pretty wild!
I'll have to say that the men I've met have told me its not just the sex, its the intimacy they miss. I consider intimacy to be the whole ball of wax. The foreplay, the sex, the cuddling, the flirting.
I wouldnt waste too much brain power on Astronaut. He's just looking for a screw and he'll say anything to get it.
Red headed ridinghood....exactly! I think its so individualized and you crave what you are missing from your marriage. The men I find are missing the sex and the friendship, the excitement etc. even just the fun chit chat about nothing serious...whatever floats your boat! Thanks for writing!!
"You are sex to me, my wife is my love."
That's quite possibly the most F-up thang I've ever heard. Especially if you actually believe it.
You clearly have no clue what love really is.
~vk~
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