For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”

Hey Baby,

This is a very hard note for me to write. I usually don’t walk away from things when I know it is right. I knew you were headed for a really rough, rough road but I was willing to take that journey with you. I am used to rollercoasters in life and the joy,the fun and the connection we found -was worth the ride. But after Friday night, I realize now that you really do want to do it on your own.

I have been dating for awhile and never let someone in like I let you in. Why? Because there is just something there that was so special. I found this quote that touches on it….
“Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.”
Alexander Smith

The connection we found doesn’t come every day and it’s a hard thing to let go of. It’s hard to slow down something that feels so good. And now it is scary that we found something we may never find again. It’s scary that it is going to totally die, we are going to drift and we will never find each other again. But timing is everything and as much as it hurts—I guess we are going to have to let it lie there and always wonder what potential we had. Who knows, maybe we will find each other again, the timing will be right and we will have saved something special. Only time will tell.

I will tell you-I loved what we had these past two months. You made me feel so special. You made me feel alive, you made my body sing. Our kisses are kisses I never felt before. You have taught me it exists, and that I should never settle for less of a kiss or connection. Our rocking, our deep conversations, our sexual connection, our laughs, our similarities, the tub, your oral skills, you knowing how to make me cum, the shower, “yeah yeah”, our being the same person…lol, you knowing what I am thinking…..it was amazing! We never got to share a cream cheese and jelly sandwich though. We had so much in such a short period of time. Who knows, maybe we will be The Notebook.

My heart aches that you don’t want me there for you now. Promise me, you won’t disappear into that darkness. Promise me, you will try to look at the positive and have hope….and I promise you that it is going to work out if you fight the darkness. You have so much potential, I wish you believed in yourself. So, I am including two sheets of quotes….one, to remind you of what we had and how special it was and the other, to remind you of how much potential you have and to hopefully give you some support to help you find yourself.

I don’t want to say good by. I am glad we at least ended in an okay place, and I realized last night we both had the same fears and concerns. We can try and talk sometimes, if it doesn’t hurt too much.

I care a lot about you. I hope you find what you are looking for…

Xoxo

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”



If Our Stars Align…Look out to the horizon,
A whole world lies beyond
The path of life shall guide you
And move you swiftly on,
There’s new things to discover
And unseen sights to see
The road stretches before you
No one knows just how far,
And whatever may befall you
Just remember who you are
If others try to change you,
Think who you want to be,
You’ll find you’ve reached your limit,
When you can go no more,
And you’ll always have our memories
Of good times we’ve had before
So when you’ve done with what you need to do,
And you remember the lost connection we had was key
Hopefully, we will be in the same place at that time and
And begin a new journey for you and me.
You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.”

I don't pretend to know what a special connection is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; connecting is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, connecting is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, connecting is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”

A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself. Jim Morrison

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”

“Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.” Alexander Smith

If you love something set it free, if it comes back its yours, if it doesn’t it never was.
Or a version I thought you might like….If you love something set it free, if it comes back its yours, if it doesn’t, hunt it down and kill it…(I had to add a little giggle! Lol)

If At First You Don’t Succeed.
Failure doesn’t mean – “You are a failure,”
It means – You just didn’t succeed at that one thing.

It doesn’t mean– “You accomplished nothing,”
It means – You have learned something.

It doesn’t mean – “You have been a fool,”
It means – You had a lot of faith.

It doesn’t mean – “You don’t have it,”
It means – You were willing to try.

It doesn’t mean – “You are inferior,”
It means – You are not perfect.

It doesn’t mean – “You’ve wasted your life,”
It means – You have a reason to start afresh.

It doesn’t mean – “You should give up,”
It means – “You must try harder.

It doesn’t mean – “You’ll never make it,”
It means – It will take a little longer.

It doesn’t mean – “God has abandoned you,”
It means – God has a better way for you.

People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. ~Thomas Szasz, "Personal Conduct," The Second Sin, 1973

Never mind searching for who you are. Search for the person you aspire to be. ~Robert Brault,

Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.~Dr. Alexis Carrel

If you can go through life without experiencing pain you probably haven’t been born yet. ~Neil Simon

If you aren't sure who you are, you might as well work on who you want to be. ~Robert Brault,

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. Norman Vincent Peale

The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. Mark Caine

We make the world we live in and shape our own environment. Orison Swett Marden

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.

Ideas shape the course of history. John Maynard Keynes

Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.
Nido Qubein

“But there is suffering in life & there are defeats. No one can avoid them. But it's better to lose some of the battles in the struggles for your dreams than to be defeated without ever knowing what you're fighting for.”

“You are the Fate of Your Own Destiny”-

Alienation of Affection Law- Mistress owes big bucks

Alienation of Affection LAW? A North Carolina mistress was sued by a man's wife under this law and she was awarded $9 million dollars today. YIKES...now that is scary! And personally, I think it is ridiculous. The husband even admitted to tons of other affairs but the wife sued this mistress. The wife was on an interview that said that everything was perfect in their marriage until she came along. Hard to believe chickie!! Nothing for nothing but it wasn't like she was a porn star or a gorgeous model that lured him in.

I cannot believe the courts got involved in this and allow this to go so far. I can't believe the wife allowed this to be dragged through the courts and she appears on tv. HELLO? Aren't you doing another horrible thing to your children? And please, she dragged him away. Last time I checked it takes two to tango. It is ridiculous that the husband gets away without any recourse yet the mistress is the one in trouble. Reality is, your husband was there and was a willing participant. Reality is, he had been unhappy in your marriage and you didnt see the signs. I certainly do not believe that this woman held him against his will or seduced him like a succubus!

The wife's name is Cindy Shackelford and the mistress Anne Lundquist. Funny, they never mentioned the husbands name...

Alienation of Affection Law is only still in existence in seven states: North Carolina, Hawaii, Mississippi, Utah, South Dakota, New Mexico and Illinois. So if you are in those states and cheating BEWARE. Here is what determines if you have a suit.

To succeed on an alienation claim, the plaintiff has to show that (1) the marriage entailed love between the spouses in some degree; (2) the spousal love was alienated and destroyed; and (3) defendant’s malicious conduct contributed to or caused the loss of affection. It is not necessary to show that the defendant set out to destroy the marital relationship, but only that he or she intentionally engaged in acts which would foreseeably impact on the marriage.

Originally this law was put into place because women were considered property. Interesting how an old law can be pulled up and used today.